Episode No. 1
Choosing the Right Partner Without Losing Yourself: Bela Gandhi on Smart Dating
In this episode of Owning Your Legacy, host Laurette Rondenet sits down with Bela Gandhi, founder of Smart Dating Academy, for a powerful conversation on modern dating, emotional intelligence, and how to build healthy relationships at any stage of life.
Bela shares her personal journey from heartbreak to global corporate leadership, and the pivotal decision to leave a successful career in finance and manufacturing to pursue her purpose: helping people date with clarity, confidence, and intention. Drawing on neuroscience, behavioral patterns, and real-world coaching experience, Bela explains why so many people repeat unhealthy relationship cycles and how to break them for good.
This episode dives deep into dating advice for women and men navigating love after heartbreak, divorce, or long-term singleness. Bela explains why chemistry alone is not enough, how attachment hormones like oxytocin influence decision-making, and why emotional safety matters more than surface-level attraction.
π Topics covered in this episode include:
π¦ Modern dating challenges and repeating relationship patterns
π¦ Dating advice for women and men over 30, 40, 50+
π¦ Emotional safety and healthy conflict resolution
π¦ Narcissism, gaslighting, and love bombing explained
π¦ Why chemistry can be misleading in dating
π¦ How to avoid losing yourself in relationships
π¦ Attachment styles, oxytocin, and emotional bonding
π¦ What makes love last long-term
π¦ Building confidence, clarity, and self-awareness in dating
Whether you are single, dating, married, divorced, or starting over later in life, this conversation offers grounded, practical guidance for building relationships rooted in respect, trust, and long-term compatibility.
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